TRY TO AVOID THE SOCIAL SITUATIONS THAT CAUSE ANGER
While there can be many jokes made about this advice –notably ones about mother-in-laws- doing our best to avoid stressful social situations that lead to anger can be a very effective way to stop anger occurring. Social interaction, especially holding a conversation with multiple people- used a large amount of energy and numerous senses.
This therefore can be a challenging and sometimes stressful activity for our bodies –especially our brain- in non-stressful situations. Think then of the stresses for carrying-out this activity during a stressful situation! I’m sure we can all think of times when socialising was extremely stressful and taxing – those times when we finish the conversation and leave the room our head hurts and we are left feeling tired and sometimes nauseous.
Examples that come to mind off the top of my head are the first day of secondary school, job interviews, or simply walking into a room where we do not know anybody and are therefore forced to make conversation.
There are times in life when these types of social situation are unavoidable and I would suggest that if possible, do not avoid such situations is they are important. For instance, going to a social event at work, even though there is a colleague there that really annoys us, may actually allow us to become more familiar with other colleagues or even that annoying colleague may not be the same person away from their desk, allowing us to begin building bridges to deal with anger.
The social situations to be avoided –if at all possible- are those situations that we can avoid and that we know for a fact will make us incredibly angry. In these circumstances, for the time being anyway, the best thing to do is to avoid. It may become possible –after speaking to an anger management professional- to gradually immerse ourselves into these type of situations over a period of time. However, at the outset, simply avoiding very stressful social situations will cause less anger to build-up over a period of time and can cause a gradual calming – causing less anger in other similar situations and less anger in the long-term.