Have you ever known someone who would do anything to get what he wanted or to get where he wanted to be? You may even suspect that person to even be dishonest or takes advantage of others to achieve his goal. They can say anything and promise everything to get to the top.
Based on the accusations thrown during the recent election campaign it may sound like I’m talking about politicians. But actually, these characteristics are evident in many of those we come in contact with every day in our business and personal life. It’s unbelievable how people are drawn in to their web of deceit and false promises.
These people sacrifice values to reach their goals. Would you?
It’s said that if you want to be successful, if you want to lead, then align your values with your goals. If what’s important to you in your daily living can help you reach your objectives then you’re on your way to the top. Values and goals must complement each other for you to be effective.
But, if you struggle with anxiety and unhappiness as you strive for your aspirations then reaching them may not give you inner peace and happiness even if you’re successful. Don’t try and become someone you won’t like once you get there. If you don’t like yourself then no one else will either.
Define your goals. Of course, there are many types of goals and you must decide which is most important to you and your family. Most people when asked to define their goals first think of their career and monetary achievement.
Define your values. What do you stand for? Is it courage, honesty, dedication, generosity, thoughtfulness, fairness, tolerance, loyalty? What drives you each day to get out of bed and do what you have to do? It could be wanting the best for your family or to feel like you have fulfilled your potential. It may be the thought of possessing power and money. Or, you could just feel peace in helping others achieve their goals.
If you’re to be happy in your career and personal life you must align this to your values and goals. You could fake it until you make it, but unless you are your true values it could be a hollow victory. Be true to yourself, work hard each day and you’ll become the person you aspire to be.
Who do you admire? It could be a famous person who exhibits the values you’d like to possess. There are many notable politicians, actors, community heroes and sportspeople who may appear to live the quality of life you admire. Maybe aspire to be like their character.
The person you admire and wish to imitate could also be a personal friend or a family member. Ask them what motivates their lives and how they aligned their values with their goals. If you’re properly aligned with the values and goals of your life, you’ll never regret where you are and where you will end.
Want some help in dealing with this or making an action plan or even bouncing some ideas off an impartial person? at Citizen Counselling and Coaching a number of our counsellors and coaches can provide support around this issue in person and via telephone and zoom secure video chat. This could include identifying the obstacles to overcoming the issue, creating practical plans and through sharing techniques and models that have worked for others.
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