Are You a People Pleaser?

Man Carrying Boxes In Warehouse

Are you the office nice-guy, or the office doormat? There’s a balance between being a good person and being a pushover, and you can even capitalize on being the nice person and turn into your superpower. It’s all about setting and maintaining your boundaries, being true to yourself and staying in your power. Assess yourself against these classic signs of being too nice in the workplace and see what you can do about it.
1. You can’t say no.
Do you find yourself saying yes to things you don’t have time for, that may not be part of your job, and that could cause your work to suffer? If you’re a chronic ‘helper’ and spending your time bailing other people out, it’s only going to end badly for everyone. Your colleagues don’t learn to take responsibility for their tasks, and you risk looking like a poor performer.
Learn to prioritize your work and push back the requests, unless there’s a crisis and it’s all hands to the pump.
2. You’re always saying sorry.
If you’re constantly apologizing, you are signaling weakness and negativity. Turn it around and say thank you instead. So if you can’t make a meeting instead of saying ‘Sorry, I can’t make it,’ try starting with ‘Thank you for inviting me.’ It changes the whole dynamic and the energy immediately, and you’ll stop feeling guilty!
3. You don’t want to upset people.
This issue can take several forms, from not giving your view in meetings to not being able to give critical feedback. You can build respect and trust for being straightforward and honest about what you think. Keep it polite, and it’s unlikely people will get upset.
4. You’re always putting yourself down.
Even if you’re joking, being self-deprecating is a bad habit for the office environment. Sure, you don’t want people to see you as arrogant, but neither do you want to be seen as a joke. If you don’t take yourself and your work seriously you can’t expect your colleagues and executives to either. Think about what sort of image you want to have in the professional setting and work to build that.
Aim to be seen as reliable, honest, trustworthy and hardworking and manage your language and behavior around that. That means setting boundaries by being clear about what you will and won’t take on, being positive about yourself and your contribution and open in your dealings with colleagues and clients. It’s fine to be nice but make sure you balance it out with being assertive!