Anger Management

Anger Management Techniques Part One

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If you have anger management problems or lose your temper easily then these anger tips will help. In the spotlight- this week we look at how to deal with ‘the wind up merchant’

Top Tips to help you Start Managing your Anger

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The biggest issue with anger management is to know where to start, so I am going to take you through a couple of things I have found most effective whilst working with hundreds of angry people who want to control their temper.

The first thing to recognise is that we all have ‘hot buttons’ or ‘triggers’ that make us angry. Sometimes one word can trigger us into a huge rage and this gives other people huge power over us. I particularly dislike ‘wind up merchants,’ people who delight in getting others wound up.

The consequences are often that we end up excluded, in trouble, or injured. Some people may use these triggers to ‘wind us up’ deliberately and enjoy seeing us get angry. You are not a sideshow, or an exhibit, so don’t give them the satisfaction.
If you can somehow free yourself from these triggers you will be making a big step in starting to mange your anger.

What can you do?

You could recognise that some people and some places increase the likelihood of this trigger being pulled (or the button being pressed). You could try to avoid these people and places.

Recognise the anger building up in you and make a sharp and powerful exit or tell the person ‘ I am not going to give you the satisfaction of seeing me get angry, you’re not worth it.’

Use humour- ‘that old one’ ‘I love you too’ ‘yeah, yeah’ Remember that no reaction is more powerful than a big reaction and they won’t get so much fun out of winding you up if you do not rise to it.

Speak to friends to gain their support- ask them to intervene before you lose it or help you walk away.

Remember that no reaction is more powerful than a big reaction.

Some people are left with a lot of anger inside themselves and I have known people punch walls and even self-harm as a result. This is because the anger is often held insideshutterstock_32557234J and one of the best ways to deal with it is to do something physical. This could be a fast walk and run, a bike ride, swimming, press ups, hitting a punch bag or something similar. For some people they need to run for an hour, others get away with squeezing a stress ball.

Some people get a great benefit from working one to one with a counsellor because there is something going on for them that is causing them to be angry. The counsellor can give them time and space and talk about this.

Give us a call on 0121 314 7075 and let us help.

Take a look at part two on How to Control Your Rage…

 

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