Self-esteem plays a significant role in your life. Your self-esteem has a profound impact on the choices you make in your life. It determines what you consider yourself to be capable and worthy of doing. When you have low self-esteem, you are at a higher risk of not fulfilling your real potential in life. Numerous factors can influence your self-esteem. These four factors can either build up your self-esteem or pull it down.
Your childhood is one of the leading contributing factors to your self-esteem. During your childhood, as your personality and everything else is developing, everyone you encounter has the potential to influence who you become, this includes your self-esteem. For example, children that grow up in unstable households tend to have lower self-confidence and self-esteem and often end up carrying that burden with them throughout their entire lives.
Our complete obsession with the media, whether its social media, television or print ads, contributes to the widespread self-esteem issues that our society faces. The instant access to social media is especially damaging to young minds with the constant pressure to look and act like public figures, celebrities, and their peers.
Friends and Family
The people that you spend time around have a considerable influence on your self-esteem. Your friends can help you build your self-confidence, your self-image, and self-respect, or they can bring it down. Unfortunately, there are those in our lives that will purposely try to harm our self-esteem to build themselves up.
Your family can also positively or negatively affect your self-esteem. Feelings of inadequacy when it comes to providing for your family can contribute to low self-esteem while working together as a family and building one another up, can contribute to a healthy self-esteem.
The majority of your time is spent at school or at work. The environment tends to influence every aspect of your life, including your self-esteem. If you have a stressful and overly demanding position, it can often contribute to low self-esteem. Working in an encouraging and productive environment can have a positive influence on your self-esteem and can help you grow stronger.
Many factors can influence your self-esteem. Every part of your life can affect it, but the person that has the most control of your self-esteem is you. Start giving yourself good messages about who you are and stop beating yourself up in order to improve your self-esteem.
At Citizen Counselling and Coaching a number of our counsellors and coaches can provide support around building confidence and bettering self-esteem. This can include identifying the obstacles to being more confident, creating practical plans and advice through sharing techniques and models that have worked for others.
Our ‘My Confidence Coach’ online programme and Coaching was designed for time poor busy people looking to increase their confidence and make a positive change in their lives.
Our Increasing Confidence page can explain more