The people whom you have the most contact with and hang around will have either a positive or negative affect on your levels of self-esteem and confidence.
We all know those people who are positive, happy and joyful to be around.
How do they make you feel?
Yes, they make you feel the same! They can but zest into a boring atmosphere and can fill the room with positive, can do vibes that has a knock-on effect onto everyone else.
We also know of those people who could moan for England!
They never had the opportunities, they are always putting people down, they don’t like others to be successful, they are jealous and are negative thinkers – need I go on!
These people drain your energy and bring you down to their level, a million miles away from the level that YOU want to be operating on.
Family members can be a lot like this also, but you can always choose your friends, you can never choose your family!
So, what should you do to make sure that the people who you hang around with empower and support what you stand for rather than bring you down all of the time?
- You have the power to choose who you hang around with. Ideally you want happy, vibrant and positive people.
- If you have good friends who are negative and yet you still want to hang around them, make a point of letting them know how you feel – if they are a true friend, they will respect you for this. If they are negative from time to time just acknowledge that this is what they are like and block out the negativity.
- The same can be said with family. Your more mature family members have behaviours that have been conditioned for years and years and from different eras. Appreciate where they have come from and as in number 2 above, elicit and select the information that filters through to your brain.
- Remember, that nothing has meaning in life except the meaning that you give it.
At Citizen Counselling and Coaching a number of our counsellors and coaches can provide support around building confidence and bettering self-esteem. This can include identifying the obstacles to being more confident, creating practical plans and advice through sharing techniques and models that have worked for others.
Our ‘My Confidence Coach’ online programme and Coaching was designed for time poor busy people looking to increase their confidence and make a positive change in their lives.
Our Increasing Confidence page can explain more